Wednesday, October 17, 2007

Old pictures

Last night I undertook a Herculean task. I am scanning all my old photos into my computer and putting them on a website for my niece Katie. (well, for anyone in the family, really, but primarily for Katie) Looking at those old pictures makes me happy, makes me sad, makes me remember... a Herculean task, indeed. In more ways than one.

Most of the pictures I am working on now are of the kids (my son and my three nieces). There are a few of myself and my sister when we were younger, mixed in. I look at those pictures and I wonder where that girl went. My life is nothing like what I envisioned it being way back then. I've known people who mapped out their life while young and then stuck to the plan until they achieved their goal. I don't understand how they do it. I am so far away from what I thought I wanted when I was a girl, I can't begin to trace the convoluted path backward to find out just where I first turned off the road that was leading me to what I wanted then.

I wanted to be an archaeologist, or a museum curator, or a teacher. And, oh yeah, I wanted to be a writer, too. Instead I ended up a customer service manager for a large department store. And now that I don't work anymore I don't even have that much identity of my own. I'm a wife, and a home-schooling mother. I cook, I clean, I do the laundry, I pay the bills and balance the checkbook, I make sure the school work gets done, I trim the hedges, and do the grocery shopping. And it isn't enough.

I love my son. I love my husband. But that isn't enough. I want something more. Taking care of my family is satisfying in it's way, but it just doesn't fill me up like it used to. I want to be an individual again. Someone aside from the family caregiver. I want to make my own choices, for myself. I want to do something that's in my best interest for a change. I want a job, I want something meaningful and worthwhile to do.

Thomas is nearly grown and will be out of the house in a few years. Pete will be retiring in a few years. I don't think I could stand to be with him 24/7/365. Sorry, but that's just the sad facts. I love the man but if I had to be with him around the clock we'd end up divorced or one of us would be dead. I love the man dearly, but I don't like him very much at all. We don't seem to have anything in common anymore and even worse, our differences don't even compliment each other. Anyway...

I just have to say: that bitch who kept on about wanting to know if Nagano-san was gay or not really got on my nerve. What the hell difference does it make? Why would anyone care? She seemed a bit obsessed with it, really. To me that's just not relevant to how I feel about him. Why not ask him what religion he practises, while you're at it? Jeez. And that other rude fool who posted on Konpira's forum. It kinda got off with me. I know I should just take it with a grain of salt, but... we have such a happy little group there and I hate to see creeps like that come along and ruin the good vibe I get from visiting there.

On the brighter side of things... Nagano-san is still beautiful. Overwhelmingly beautiful. Watched Sasuke #12 both times tonight. He's just that fantastic. Watching him makes me incredibly happy. And that's a good thing. A very good thing. Thank you Makoto Nagano.

Good Night.


Jeannie said...

SKW- You and I are in a similar situation. After I became ill, I didn't work outside of the home. I'm hoping to get back to it one of these days.

In the meantime, I've found ways to keep busy. One that that keeps my extremely busy is genealogy. Did you ever see my other blog?

It can be a long, boring topic for many, but if it interests you, let me know. I am a volunteer for several genealogy groups. Just google my name (my real name), and you'll see how busy I've been.

About the Nagano thingy...The first person that asked the gay questions in no way offended me, as I felt that she was trying to confirm info. that she had read elsewhere. One's sexual orientation shouldn't matter, but to many, it unfortunately does. As a strong supporter of my LGBT community, I've had to learn to look past that, or I would be full of anger all of the time.

The second person, who called us all "bitches", also did not offended me. He/she is obviously quite young and has much growing up to do.

Rumors are often an unfortunate accompaniment to fame. But I feel that Nagano-san has enough fans who truly care for him. I have no doubt that this will outshine any negativity that he hears. :-)

Some Kinda Wonderful said...

I know you are right, Jeannie, I just don't get it. Surely those morons could tell by looking at that site that it wasn't one of those type places where the users get ugly with each other? I don't understand why some people get their kicks by being nasty and mean. I never have and I never will. It just makes no sense to me.
Besides, Konpira's is a nice place that I really enjoy visiting and I hate the thought that jerks like those two will multiply and take over. Then where will I hang out?

Jeannie said...

I doubt very much that people who are nasty will stay around Konpira's. It will become boring for them to do so if nobody responds to their comments.

pamwax said...

I don't think anyone's expectations of their future are ever what they expected. Every thing I did in school was geared to being a wife and mother. Look what happened. I have been working since '75 when Neil opened our first business. It has been Ok but I would like to never work again. We have been together 24/7 for alot of years. That is why I have my hide away room.

Home Schooling your child is a job and I admire you for being able to do it. I really admire what you and Jeannie do.